Stepping off the Sandbar: Sending our kids to college {with courage}

It has been 77 days since the band played “Pomp and Circumstance” and we watched our daughter march triumphantly across the field to receive her high school diploma.

Since then, we’ve been seemingly stuck in a pre-college no-man’s land…rather like running aground on a sandbar, and the tide just isn’t right for moving any of us.

And being stuck gives us time.

Time for preparations, like orientation, choosing a bedspread, and meeting a new roommate.

Time for “lasts:”  the last dinner with high school friends, the last day of church together, the last family vacation.

And time for new thoughts and plans and questions as she embraces the about-to-be freshman experience. She’s curious and excited and nervous.

Me too.

College conjures a new list of worries in my maternal mind:

Campus safety
Noisy dorms
Academic stress

West Nile Virus
I get a little carried away sometimes.

And yet, history tells me that all of these worries will likely be unfounded. We’ve endured many “firsts” with our children, and we’ve all emerged victorious…

However, these “firsts” require courage.

I remember our daughter’s first steps, her chubby legs lurching forward in syncopated rhythm (looking to us, like graceful ballet…) Similarly, I can see, in my mind’s eye, that terrifying, exhilarating moment when Tom let go of her bicycle seat, and she peddled that two-wheeler down the street and out of sight. And, in the blink of an eye, she was in the driver’s seat, possessing a shiny new laminated license, and driving right out of the neighborhood.

I have admired her mettle and determination at each of these rites of passage, and I know that these qualities will serve her well as she begins college next week.  All of these “firsts” that are prologue to the greater challenges that she will face in the grown-up world. This is another “first” in her journey, and it will take a great lot of courage for my daughter to step off the sandbar and swim toward the life God has planned for her.

And it will take a great lot of courage for me to let her go.


Around here {July, 2012 edition}

Around here, we’ve been doing a lot of celebrating…

Annie graduated from high school…

and we planned a wedding shower for these two in Michigan.

Tom and Bill celebrated Father’s Day at the Indian’s Game.

Around here, we’ve spent time with far-flung relatives.

Around here, we’re applauding for Bill, who is in a production at a local youth theatre.

Around here, our days are filled with summer jobs, carpooling, friends, good books, and a bit of extra sleep.

Around here, we’re glad it’s summer.

Hope you catch a few fireflies…

Five Facts for Friday {6.29.12 edition}

Hello there, everyone!

Hope you are staying nice and cool wherever you are located. If you are in the Western United States, I pray that you are safe from the wildfires. And, if you live in the south, I hope you’re safe from the floodwaters.

I’m happy to report that while I was in a tizzy last week, my computer is now back up and running.

I am, for the record, investing in all sorts of back up protection…

And now for some good fun! 

1. I just checked the weather report for Hell, Michagan, and compared it to Chagrin Falls….it’s going to be as hot as Hell here in Chagrin today.
2. Three cheers for my new friend, Omar, who not only fixed my computer but retrieved all of my files from a damaged hard drive. I love Omar. I really do.
3. Sometimes the very best thing is to have a good cry.
4. I wonder if the Supreme Court Justices ever get tired of wearing black.
5. My favorite summer job: Pearl Diver at Sea World when I was in college. How about you?

Happy Friday, friends.